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Originally Posted by OOhsoflyDELTA#9
Soror LG...first of all I have the upmost respect for anyone who pledged old school and am thankful for the legacy that was laid...believe that!
Now to explain my post, I don't believe that we (NPHCers) should "cuddle" (I think thats the word you used) anyone, there will be no skatin around me...but I do believe we sometimes on this board come off totally unapproachable...some OPs deserve the "ice-grills' for their lack of manners, intelligence, and just plain good sense, but I didn't get that vibe from this OP...some people, especially alot of these younger possibly 1st generation to attend college kids may not have a clue about the dos and don'ts and overall culture of BGLOs...unfortunate as it may be, on ALOT of campuses the "probate", coming out show, or whatever you want to call it is one of the most publicized events of an org, thats just real, so these kids see this as the epitome of our orgs..thats not their fault....true the kids who have a sibling, family member, or someone to guide them through the process should know that those are no where near the most important aspect of greek life, but those without any guidance honestly just may not know....as far as using the internet...thats just the sign of the times...kids start using computers in pre-school now...most research is net based now...and as far as approaching a current member of the chapter...in many undergrad chapters the lack of maturity and elitist mentality of members is often imtimidating to interests..we tell them to use discretion but if you walk up and ask a question about the org your interest, you're pretty much outted (sp)
..this was not supposed to be a book but honestly as for me...I will point anyone who approaches me respectful in the right direction if at all possible...someone did that for me and I'm compelled to do the same..
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don't usually quote and comment in threads such as these:
But, AMEN! AMEN! AND AGAIN ANOTHER AMEN!
I don't consider myself to be in the category of "anxiety disorder" but most of you who don't know me (and even those who do) would not know that in person, I am EXTREMELY SHY! I am 43 years old and just last week someone in my school building actually said to me that she didn't know that I "talked" because she has never heard me say anything. Now, I can run my mouth forever, if there is something that I have to say. But, I have been fighting this extreme shyness/anxiety thing all of my life and I hate it when people ridicule me (or others) for it when they don't understand it.
I push myself to do things that I wouldn't ordinarily do -- like public speaking. I am a teacher so that requires me to talk constantly. I love performing (I hand-dance 2-3 times weekly) so that puts me out there. All of my life I have been pushing myself to overcome this and there are days when I would rather crawl under a rock, teach my students, and not deal with grown people altogether but I push myself DAILY in everyway to be social.
I hope that the young lady who posted this would realize that there are more "stressful" situations in being a member than just "probating". You may chair or co-chair a committee and have to give a report to your chapter. Personally, for myself, I find that harder than speaking or performing in public to strangers!!
Feel free to PM me if you like. The more you deal with this, the easier it gets and meds is not always the answer.