the funny thing is though, most people don't pay attention to what i actually say. they just like to focus on how i say it. this post turned "into a massive train wreck" because people focused on the fact i wasn't an nphc and used the phrase tool bag. if you had something productive and intelligent to say about the actual content of my reply those things would have been obsolete.

i never said a group didn't have the right to turn away a prospective because something that cripples her from fitting into their culture, all i said was if that happened the group wasn't right for her and i did not agree with it.