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Originally Posted by ugablonde
I will be a sophomore this coming fall at a huge southern school with a pretty hardcore, cut-throat greek system. I rushed this past fall as a freshman, and I dropped out after the first round. I got cut from most of my favorite houses, although i did get invited back to 1 or 2 that i liked, but still dropped out of rush because i was sooo hurt from getting cut from soo many that I seemed to like and that seemed to like me. A lot of my friends and other girls got invited back to all their top choices and I didn't... I didn't understand why either, I have an awesome GPA, I dressed nicely, I was myself, I thought I had good conversation, I'm a cute girl....I even got cut from houses that I got multiple recs for. Now, after a year of being here (don't get me wrong, I've had a blast!) I have realized that i really would like to be in a sorority, not just because they are so big here but because I feel like it would make my college experience much more fulfilling, I would make life-long friends, and not to mention all the fun socials and activities they get to do.. I just want to belong to something a little smaller and more personal than my school of 30,000+ students. In other words, I want to join a sorority for all the right reasons.
I guess my question is... should I even bother rushing as a sophomore? I have a ton of friends in a lot of the houses, but a lot of people say that sophomores get automatically cut, and plus I'm afraid I'll get rejected again and then I'll be completely distraught! Another promblem i have come across is that my pledge class will probably be mostly, if not all, freshman, so I might not feel as connected with girls a year younger than me...
I don't know what to do..... ? what do ya'll think? 
If I do decide to rush, do you have any suggestions for sophomores going through rush? |
If you want it badly enough, don't let anyone discourage you. I had a really peculiar situation with recruitment and finally ended up joining as a junior. It can happen. A lot of the girls in my new member class were freshmen, but I still managed to connect with them. In fact, one of them became one of my closest friends and we're living together this year. Most of the sisters I'm close with are younger than me, but it doesn't make it any different. You'll make friends with girls of all ages. That's the beauty of being in a sorority-though there can be class divisions, you can really get to know people in all different years in college that you may have not otherwise had a chance to get to know.
Best of luck to you--what's meant to be will happen. Also, I know the cuts can be disheartening-crushing, even, but you'll end up where you're meant to be. I'm a firm believer in that. You may not see yourself somewhere at all, but it could click on Bid Day. Sometimes, it doesn't even happen then-it can take time-but it will all fall into place eventually and you'll understand why that was the only place for you.
PM me if you have any questions, need advice, etc. xoxo