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Originally Posted by NikkiB
My boyfriend lavaliered me, and though I get along with all of his brothers, my necklace is the only TKE letters I wear. I have shirts with "Tau Kappa Epsilon" written out on them, but none with letters. I was told by a different brother, however, that I was allowed to wear stitched letters, but my boyfriend was not allowed to anymore, because he had "given" me his letters. I'm still not allowed to wear the crest, or know any secrets, ect (which is fine, because i'd never reveal mine). Another brother told me that my being lavaliered made the brothers think of me as "equal to a brother, no better, no worse, just our equal, and not just some girl" which made me feel very loved. It seems to vary by chapter and the guys in the chapter...
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Yeah, cause I'm pretty sure "equal to a brother" wouldn't fly with the Deltas here, no matter whose girlfriend you are. Pikes are the only other ones I've seen lavalier around here and I don't get the impression they would consider a lavaliered girlfriend to be equal to a brother either. A brother's a brother, a girl is a girl...I feel the same way about boyfriends of our sisters, too. They aren't equal to a sister...they aren't just "some guy" either in a lot of cases. There's some we all know and love and they're kinda part of the family, but in the way a stray kitten is (not that I'm calling them a kitten or something...it's an analogy)...it's cute, you love it, but it isn't your sister. It's a cat.
Considering a girl to be equal to me looks like they wouldn't apply the "bros before hos" rule...and they always should. I was a "Delta Chi girl" before I started dating my boyfriend...they're my favorite people outside my sisters to hang out with, and I'll go to their parties before any other fraternity's, and if they needed help with something I wouldn't mind helping...but the only one of them that should see me as an equal is my boyfriend...and none of them but him are an equal to my sisters.