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Originally Posted by rastaone
thanks a lot guys for the great responses. as far as advisers are concerned, i for one know that i cannot talk about alcohol at all when certain advisers are around, even if its just about a party over the weekend. ive talked to many of my brothers as well as several advisers, and they believe that within the vision and goals and whatever of MOP, you should not drink (responsible social conduct and some other stuff?). i had an adviser tell me that i need to work on my image, which should not include alcohol, even if i am not getting drunk.
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That is ridiculous. This is a social fraternity, not a monastery. This is part of growing up and a place to make life friends- not a place to be told what to do and managed to such a degree as you report.
MPI (MOP as you call it) says nothing about not drinking, nor does it put brothers or advisors in the position to make moral judgments about other members over choices of lifestyle and personal conduct within what society deems acceptable.
As ZZ kai said, there are dry Beta houses- but that is not a requirement of MPI and it is a completely separate issue. That kind of decision comes from a chapter and or the alumni who buy/manage the house- it does not come from MPI or General Fraternity. Some houses are even substance free which means no tobacco use either. But again, this is not an MPI issue.
I really hope you guys can find a way to have some honest discussions with your advisors- but they need to take the first step to even let you feel comfortable talking openly. Otherwise you have no incentive to work with them and then they become useless- like another set of parents you don't need.