[AOE2AlphaPhi]

You should elaborate on the clues from your big, but I would imagine that they would probably be something good to keep. I don't know how your school is, but I know a few girls at my school who depledged and stayed good friends with their bigs, so just make sure she knows it it's financial, not personal and that you really enjoyed your time with the chapter. It would be sad to lose potential friends just because of some money!