Billy Optimist,
No No No No No No!
Never give a woman three days to think about an upcoming date, especially a first one. Women are worse than Sports Center, by the time your date has rolled around they will have analyzed it, dissected you, called in expert opinions, and tried for a group consensus. Thats an awful lot of pressure, and it only takes one friend going eeewww to destroy your date.
Lower the pressure. The sooner you call if you are interested the better, you want to ride the momentum of her liking you and you being new.
Cream is right when she says that notice needs to be given for better dates. Calling a girl up and asking her out to a formal dinner in an hour is not a great idea.
But the first date should be about the two of you connecting. So calling her up and inviting her out that night, or the next day for a cup of coffee and desert is a nice thing. And there are plenty of little desert coffee places now, or even a Starbucks or Borders will do.
The advantages are:
Its a short date, so you can talk and not run out of things to say. Plus its easier to be "on" during shorter periods of time.
IF the date goes sour, well coffee is quick. And if the date goes well you can have a contingency plan worked out in advance and go on from there.
Always treat for the first date, even if she insists (most girls don't press you too hard about taking their money
) if she really pushes just come out and say, hey i would really like to pay for the this because that makes it feel like a real date. (plus then you know you are on a date and not going to be pidgeon holed into the living-death-friend-category.) Pay and be gracious even if she is a twit, she'll tell her friends and you will get Social Brownie points.
Good Luck.
Cream- Damn girl I was all excited! I had my Cell phone out and dialing your digits only to see the number incomplete! So now I'll have to lead two girls on in the future and let them down just to even the score.
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Originally posted by Cream
If you want to ask her out for a date on Friday night, call her on Tuesday or on Saturday night call before Wednesday. Have a plan in mind like dinner and a movie. If she's anything like me, she will appreciate you putting some thought into planning a date. Always give a woman three days notice before a date. It gives her time to prepare, and no woman wants to feel like she's a last minute choice because you had nothing better to do. Also, call a night before just to firm up plans.
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