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Originally posted by Her Dopenezzz
I'm not saying that it is entirely different or the same. I am responding to the Internet dating question saying that it is W-A-C-K. The idea that a person has to submit to typing on a computer in order to find love when he/she can't interact with people in "real" life, face to face is sad. That's usually the reason people claim to be looking for love online, right? No one is good enough for them, or no one is catching their fancy, blah blah blah. I'm not saying that you can't romantically connect with someone online if it just happens but the fact that you have to resort to E-dating to find the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with, in my opinion, is not cute.
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Hm.. well, when I posted a personal ad back in 1999, I was working full time, going to school in pursuit of a Master's degree full time, and doing freelance web design in my spare time. I wasn't desperate, nor did I have a hard time meeting anyone face to face. I was simply *busy* and didn't go to clubs (anymore). Most of the guys I met at school were just as driven as I was and didn't have the time to devote to nurturing a relationship either. I worked at a University and most of the people I worked with were women. I placed the ad as a lark, and pretty much forgot about the ad as soon as I posted it. Imagine my surprise when a guy who was 3000 miles away responded. Imagine my further response when we became friends.
We just celebrated our first anniversary last Saturday.
As far as it's being 'wack' in your estimation, I'm with PrettyKitty: if it works for you, great. If it doesn't work for you, that's cool too...but why be so judgemental about it? You've shown that it isn't your cup of tea, and that's perfectly fine. It's understandable that people might have issue with something that they've never experienced themselves. Still, to automatically assume that people who do go the online route are somehow more suspect than more traditionally paired couples is unfair.
Just because you met someone online it doesn't mean that you're incapable of sustaining any "face to face" relationships -- in order for an online relationship to go any farther, it has to become a face to face relationship eventually, doesn't it? Does it become less "wack" when the parties have moved to that next level?
I've said it before in this forum and I'll say it again: I'm all for sisters who take charge of their romantic destinies rather than sitting around, "waiting to exhale", hoping and wishing that their prince will come. (No offense meant to anyone to whom this applies) If taking charge means showing the initiative to put it in writing what you want in a partner and what you won't accept, then by all means, go for it.