[honeychile]

Bottom line on the past aspect: Each of us has as much control over who our ancestors were, or what our ancestors did or thought as we had control over our height or DNA. It's how you process it and how you decide to improve on their lot that's important.

I have ancestors on both sides on the War Between the States. I refuse to deny any of them, because I had nothing to do with their thought processes! People had different ideals 150 years ago, and there's nothing I or anyone else can do to change that.

The important thing is to learn and move on - keeping what is noble and right, and disgarding the evils.