My chapter went through a reorganization a few years back (while I was a grad student). A few people chose to disaffiliate rather than go through the interview process, and probably about half the chapter was asked to take alum status.
The women who disaffiliated, didn't go out of their way to hang out with those who didn't (whether they were active or alum). But if they ran into someone, they would generally have a friendly chat and go their separate ways.
The women who were asked to go alum, put together an email list and tried to get together for dinner every once in a while. They included people (like myself) who had gone alum because we'd graduated but who were still around, and 1 or 2 of the active sisters. But they tended not to go to sorority fundraisers, help out with rush, hang out with the chapter as a whole, or anything.
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