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Originally Posted by TheEpitome1920
I can't remember where I read this but something about AA women are more likely to marry men without degrees.
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so is that settling or is it facing some reality that non-degreed AA men are more suitable to marry?
i was told (by a black professor) that once black people graduate from college, they automatically enter the middle class, regardless of the student loans they owe (because taking out loans means you have the priveledge of having good enough credit to take them out - dont know if i agree), regardless of the job you have (because that degree opens you to more job opportunities than without it) simply because the way your brain thinks as far as future goals and outlook is definitely different with college than without. i dont know if that makes sense, but this professor shut me down in conversation once saying "you can't go around crying 'i'm from the hood and that's what i represent' when you graduate from a prestigious university (or one at all) and work on a salary vs an hourly wage."
with that said... i definitely didnt grow up middle class. i been poor, but i cant say i ever went hungry, or without clothes and other necessities. did i go without some experiences as a child and teen? sure, but that happens.
so im torn. i dont think i could relate to a dude who hasnt been to college and is from the hood, cause my mentality isnt hood. it never was - just cause you live in the hood dont mean you have to be hood. on the other hand, if dude is college educated, and therefore by this theory, middle class, he could have had a host of middle class life experiences that i wont ever relate to. i know they could be little things, but they definitely add up.
so would i ever marry down? no, because i would think its important to have some sort of common upbringing. would i marry up? dont know about that either - wouldnt want my partner looking at me all sorts of ways like "omg i have to show you the world." dont want any dude thinking he has to culture me into some high society for me to be suitable.
is it too picky to say to marry somewhere in the middle?