As someone who plans on rushing next Spring, I would most definitely be misled by the pamphlet. I'm going to be transferring from a small northern (why I'm so naive about sororities) school to a big southern school. I don't think there should be any explanation as to WHY you were not extended a bid. Is knowing going to change something? No. Will it honestly make the person feel any better? Not likely. It would probably make them obsess over it so that if they did rush again, that's all they focused on. I know that if I'm not asked to join, it won't be the end of the world. To some it might be. But the most you can do is (as has been said previously) tell them that the selection process is private. If someone is going to throw a temper tantrum because they didn't get into the sorority of their choosing... its not your job to be their mother and wipe their nose and give them the "everybody's a winner" speech. If they can't control themselves in a situation such as this...they have much bigger things to worry about.
Hope that was helpful...
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