ok. i changed the original post so that you people can focus just on what i was asking and wanted. that first sentence must have confused you.

this is not my event and no matter what you say, unless it is responding to those questions up there are not going to get to the girl that's planning it. you can tell me i'm not qualified all you want, it's not going to change anything. Nor is it going to hurt or harm you so i don't know why you're making such a big deal about it. calm down.