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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy
DSTCHAOS, that's funny how you pegged that because my brother already told me what it is. He said that since I'm very quiet and reserved, the more outgoing women are going to approach me. He said they've been with the wild guys. He said that after a while they get tired of that, so they eventually want a more reserved guy who doesn't hang out at the clubs and places like that. He said the more reserved women want to approach me, but since they're reserved like me then we don't approach each other, and those are the ones I'm interested in. I don't like the loud, fast women.
The only places I go are to the book store, work, and school, so I don't understand why I'm attracting the wrong kind of women. Actually I'm getting tired of it. Maybe I should start wearing my fraternity ring on my left finger.
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To be honest with you, the women I know and I would probably find you very boring.
Not because we're loud and fast but because we like jokes and charismatic personalities--men who aren't loud but can light up a room even in their silence. Being quiet and reserved may not show your true personality. First impressions can determine whether a woman wants to give you her number and so forth. Also the book store, work, and school regiment is something for old professors to do.
Those of us who are young professionals want some spice when we're "off the clock." That doesn't mean you have to be running the streets or having sex, but don't think you have to live the life of a monk, either. I don't know how old you are but I imagine you're a few years younger than I am. So if I find your routine BLAH then that says something.
Your brother's assessment may be accurate. Other possibilities are that you just have limited interactions with women due to your routine. That's basic probability statistics--if you are set to only meet 3 women per month, they are likely to not be what you're looking for and those negative encounters will stick out because you haven't had more positives encounters. Lastly, the women you encounter (the quiet ones, the louder ones, or whatever) may label your quiet reservation for insecurity or being an antisocial cornball.