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I'm sorry that you felt shocked by the way the process ended. Please understand that most sororities can't/won't inform PNMs that they weren't selected via email or phone call during informal and that many sororities just assume that a PNM knows she wasn't selected if she hasn't heard anything by a few days after a preference party.

Please try again next semester. By then you'll have had time to make better connections with the sorority women and you might have a better shot. It might make you feel better to know too that during informal, spaces are often extremely limited. If a large number of women show up to COB events when there are only a few spaces available then lots of women will be disappointed. It sounds like the women in the chapter like you if they're coming up to you, hugging you, being friendly. I think you should try again.