Yes I am black like you, but no I don't understand where you're coming from. Although I have never done so, I don't see a problem with dating outside your race. Everybody has their preference. However, for someone to make a statement about have a big lip baby is just ridiculous. A lot of white women are going to extremes trying to get the big lips you so hate. For you to make the comments about lips and hair, you must not have an understanding of genetics. I would suggest you do a little research about the subject before making such comments. It doesn't matter what your child looks like, chances are they will be teased at some point. Even if they have straight and silky hair, they will be too fat or too skinny, too dark or too light, too tall or too short, too proper or too country etc. There will always be something. That's when you, as a parent, step in and let them know that they are beautiful just the way they are. Interracial kids go through just as much as other kids if not more. Marinate on that!