[Scandia]

It is possible to go back. I was able to get over my first love, who happened to be my good guy friend. He did have to set some boundaries- but I did take no for an answer and eventually got over him (and my depression). I never stalked him. I never threatened him. I never harassed him. Those bad things had happened to me before from someone who would not take NO for an answer and who had become abusive in addition to stalking me.

While this fellow sounds kind, I do worry that he may get abusive and harassing and become a stalker. There have been some guys who have been able to deal with our being just friends even if they liked me- hey, the last guy I dated is one of them. Others can't- like the convenient guy from sophomore year, whom I did not even have to tell that I did not feel the same way for him to realize it and end a friendship of 7 months.