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Originally Posted by James
Lie.
There is no good way to tell someone you don't like them.
There are only bad ways to tell someone you aren't attracted to them.
So just tell him you have been chatting with some guy you are interested in or something . . . and if it comes up, say you thought you two were friends.
Not that you just want to be friends, but you thought you two already were.
Its a little bold of him to be visiting you out of the blue at your sorority house based on a couple phone conversations . . . did you guys hang out a few times or something?
And when you say big, do you mean muscular (athlete bodybuilder) or overweight?
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Well, I made a boo boo on the phone before I met him. He asked me if I had a boyfriend and I told him, I just recently broke up with my X. I was telling him stuff like good guys are hard to find and most guys are pigs, stupid stuff like that. I wasn't thinking straight. I'll take your advice and tell him I thought we were just friends and hopefully he'll get the idea. I just don't want him to call me anymore nor do I want him hanging out in my room with me. Whenever I see him he tries to hug me, and that really bothers me.
I only went out with him once, and then we studied in the library once. Since then, whenever he would call me and ask me out or to study with him, I would make excuses of why I couldn't. Then one night he just showed up at our house. I thought that was really bold too. He's been over here more than once. The 1st time, my sisters let him in not knowing that I even went out with him. After he left, they asked me about him and I told them I wasn't attracted to him. Since then, they tease me about him and let him in every time he comes over. He already knew what sorority I'm in. I'm sure he saw me with my sorority on campus. We're together a lot. Plus I'm a cheerleader and I'm sure he's seen me at games and stuff. Kinda scary to know that he had been watching me all that time, and I had no clue. I tried asking some of my sorority sisters if they were attracted to him, thinking maybe one of them would go out with him instead of me. None of them find him attractive, plus most of them have boyfriends.
No, he's not overweight. He's like really muscular and big. I don't really like big athletic guys. I like cute guys with nice bodies and all, but not muscular like him. I like smaller guys. I guess a nice bod for me is not a nice bod for most women.
I just want the phone calls to stop, I want the visits to stop, I want the calling my name across campus when he see's me to stop. Help.
Thanks for your advice.