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I wouldn't be to worried about what he is thinking, because you'll never know, and even if he tells you it probbaly won't be the whole truth. *shrug* Humans are not truthful animals when it comes to feelings, we are too afraid of being hurt.
I would be more worried about what he is doing, what you are feeling, and what you want. Because those things you can know, influence, control, and are intrinsic to your piece of mind.
1. He is not dating you. He is hanging out with you. (Remember I am not saying what he feels, we don't know that, but we can observe actions)
Dating requires that both people are spending time together with romantic intentions on their minds. I would say that some part of romance has a physical component. Remember, that is the difference between friends and Significant Others. We talk to one and shag the other (diffculties happen when the two become confused).
If you both have had many dates in two months and he has never tried touching you or kissing you, that is not indicative of some kind of healthy attraction.
If you had only seen each other a few times over a couple months then I would stay say you aren't really dating because there is no physical component and the time span is too great between dates. You need to build a momentum with these things.
other questions I would ask you are:
1. Are you flirty when you talk to each other?
2. Banter about sex a lot?
3. Have you definitely been out like the two of you to dinner, and did he settle the check himself.
4. Bought you flowers or anything?
5. Have you EVER once made the first move?
6. If so what did he do?
From what you have said so far, I have only one real strategy to recomend:
You forget about talk (women KILL relationships with men with their incessant chatter about it) and you invite him over/out for a dinner date (call it a dinner date with you dressed sexy as all hell) and then, a couple drinks always helps (God Bless Alcohol), make your move and kiss him (on the lips). If you are not brave enough to do that then get a pouty look and say" Don't you want to kiss me?". If that doesn't work the man is STONE and you can just hang your hat on him and pretend he is a statue.
But one way or another that should end your uncertainty. And its the only real way to end it. Everything else is just speculation.
When my friends keep saying, does she like me, does she like me, over and over again. I say, go ask her out some place and find out.
I hope this helps a little. Remember, effective people spend 10 percent of their time on the problem and 90 percent of the time on the solution.
So don't analyze him, cause it doesn't matter. It only matters what he does.
Take care,
And please post a follow-up.
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