[AlexMack]

I had a friend with a very similar story to yours. She joined an NPC sorority, was very unhappy with both the chapter and the school and she transferred to a school closer to home. She went through recruitment with some new friends she made at her new school just to hold their hands and wound up with a bid at another NPC sorority with girls she absolutely loved. She really really wanted to join them, even disaffiliating from her original sorority. She finally decided not to accept the bid.

Think about it carefully-she may transfer to another school, disaffiliate from DZ and get a bid to a chapter she loves. She makes lots of friends, loves the school, loves her sorority and then one day-BOOM! Something slips, it might be a facebook or myspace indiscretion, or one of the sisters at her new chapter knows someone from her old school, any kind of connection like that...suddenly she's stripped of her membership with her new chapter and now she's got nothing and her new sisters hate her, her old sisters hate her and she's lost it all.
My advice-tell your friend to stick it out and if she really can't, take alum status or disaffiliate. You don't need letters or a sorority to be happy in college and if she's depending on that-well, never mind, this part gets bitchy based upon a loose assumption so I won't go there. There are other clubs and organizations she can join and as others have said, other chapters of DZ at other schools. Delta Zeta is a great organization and she may just be in the wrong chapter for her.