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total is a figure that applies to all the sororities,and is usually a set number that is the same for all the sororities. the exception is a few campuses, where it seems that each chapter has a different total, sometimes based on the amount of members they can house.
you do not have to give us any reasons why you don't want to go back to all the sororities. what you have said makes me think that you have given this a lot of consideration and have not made snap judgements. those of us who suggested that you visit the maximum that you are allowed, were thinking that you could increase the likelihood of receiving a bid, but you certainly do not want to join a chapter where you would not be happy or more importantly, where you might be hazed.
i admire your desire to be discreet-it shows maturity. honestly though, i did not pick up in your original post that this group has a reputation problem-when i read it, i thought that it was just a typical new chapter, having growing pains and struggling with their first formal recruitment. i think others might have assumed the same thing, because a lot of us are very involved alumnae who have worked with colonies/new chapters. that is why the internet can be both a blessing and a bane!
you seem to have your head squarely on your shoulders and know yourself.
good luck!! please keep us posted.
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