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Originally posted by prayerfull
I have to say one more thing....I just don't buy the whole excuse of not being active because of Dues. Quite frankly our dues are not really that much. If you think about how much you go out and spend on a couple of nice outfits and/or shoes for yourself, we can easily think about how to conserve some of that. When we dedicate ourselves to AKA we make a committment. Sorors all know how much their dues are and can plan for it throughout the year if it's really going to be a financial strain. Some Sorors have a separate bank account for AKA. That's a good way to plan. I'm just not buying that whole Dues issue, because I'm young (30), married, and have 2 kids. My husband and I both work hard. We've got the same financial burdens as everyone else. But I plan for AKA, just as we plan our budget and pay for our kid's private school tuition.
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That's easy to say soror, but you have to think of people who have
unplanned hardships: death in the family, lay-offs, decrease in salary, etc. Some things can't be planned. While part of me agrees with you, the recently-laid-off part disagrees, LOL!
I'm not making Excuses though, lol, I'm just sayin', life happens. Now, unusually loooong periods of inactivity, I'm not really sure what to say about that.
How do you all go about inviting inactive sorors to stuff? Cuz lemme tell yall, I have a friend who is inactive, and she is SO hesitant to go to social functions, because she doesn't want to be seen as the "inactive soror at the party/picnic/etc." But I've tried to tell her, she has to come to SOMETHING to feel the sisterly vibe and love, you know what I mean? To get back in touch with what made her fall in love with AKA in the first place,and to make her want to reactivate. And the other functions that we have are so few and far between. Then you try really hard at Founders' Day celebrations, but you have to HOPE that the word gets out to inactive sorors. I guess it's hard, because every chapter is different, some have cliques, some are "too old, not enough young sorors," I've heard it all.
I make sure when I meet a soror (and I know if she's active or not, cuz I woulda seen her at chapter) I ask her how long she's been in Columbus (peeps need time to get settled), then sooner or later, I will invite her to our next event. One, she may feel simply left out and not know any sorors or about our events. I even left one soror a note on her car after church inviting her to our chapter meeting that day. She didn't come, but she did at least call me. We have to at least reach out. And keep reaching. Sometimes I feel like I'm harassing sorors, lol, but shoot, so.
Maybe they will get sick of hearing my mouth and come on back!
That's true what someone said about undergrads transferring into the grad chapter. I have a few friends who are inactive (for now!!
) that have qualms about coming into the grad chapter. Since it's something I didn't experience, I don't really understand.