The whole thing for me with Ava was:
1. The fake tears at dinner*two year olds do that
2. How her mom specifically told her NOT to go to Santa Barbara and she did it anyway
3. The manner in which she spoke to her parents.
4. Her incessant whining, ie Moooommmm....
Best part I LOVED was when her mom figured out Ava took off to S.B., she wasted no time, called and CANCELLED Ava's credit card.
This child has no respect for her parents. Period. (at least at that time)