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Originally Posted by fadyas
Well, I don't know alot about how everything works, at the end of teh night they just said that they are going to make their decisions tonight and to stay by our phones. From what I understood, she said that they didn't have many slots open for alot of members to join this semester, and that in the fall, there are way more spots open and usually they are more open to juniors than it is in the spring. I am not sure what to do. There are 4 sororities on campus and this was the one that I really wanted, I liked everything about them, the girls, their philanthropy, just everything. I don't know that much about the other sororites, I'm jsut so lost and don't know what to do, it was such a disappointment when I got that call.
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Umm, based on this description I honestly wouldn't encourage you to try again (at least with this chapter)... I can't imagine the reasons for discouraging bidding juniors would be any different in the fall, even if they have more spots to fill. Basically I don't know why they're telling you to go through recruitment again and saying things that are borderline secret, but I wouldn't get my hopes up if I were you. What they're saying doesn't make sense -- if they wanted to extend you a bid, it would have been far more beneficial of this chapter to do so during this recruitment period, at least financially.
I'm really sorry to say this but I think whoever you talked to was trying to "let you down easy." My best guess is that they really did like you and think you were genuine but for whatever reason they did not select you. It's kind of a cop-out but it's much easier for a sorority sister to say "Wow, we all really loved you and thought you were sweet buuuut you're a junior and we don't normally bid juniors...in any case, I encourage you to go through recruitment in the fall. We really liked you though!" than just straight up saying "I'm sorry, we did not feel that you were right for this sisterhood at this time."
In fact, at my school, sorority members were instructed to encourage disappointed women to go through recruitment again in the future...I obviously don't know exactly what was said between you and this member, but I wouldn't get necessarily read too much into her encouragement to rush again. It might just be a standard line they feed everyone.
But obviously you're the only person that can read the situation -- I didn't hear the phone call and I didn't get enough details from your description to tell one way or the other.
In any case, I'm sorry it didn't work out and I wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide to do.