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Originally Posted by ColorfulCre8ion
Ok let me clarify a few things. It is very hard to determine when someone who is homosexual should come ‘out’ about their sexuality. There are a lot of psycho stressors (I’m a psych minor) that can plague one’s mind. I decided that that was the time. Now, please understand that when I told them I was not expecting them to throw me a gay parade, give me rainbow balloons, hug me and tell me how great it is that I am lesbian. Definitely NOT! I am much smarter than that. I didn’t even expect them to “accept” my lifestyle. My choice of telling them was so that they were aware that I live a slightly different life than they do. Other than the fact that I like girls, nothing else is really different. I am still a black female. I still deal with the stress that black people face everyday. I am still a college student and deal with the hassle of classes and trying to graduate, so I really don’t understand what the big deal is. I was however not expecting for them to out right dog me and mistreat me. I know that a lot of people do not agree with homosexuality and I am ok with that but I was TOTALLY NOT expecting this response.
To answer the question about why I chose Delta ( and know I was not offended by that question and yes I know that I have to be ready to answer that), I wanted to become a member of Delta ever since I was in high school. Even when I was unsure about my sexuality I was sure that I wanted to be apart of this sorority. I was a huge community service guru, every Saturday and Sunday I was out in our community completing projects and I ran into a lot of Deltas. I was enamored with their dedication to service and sisterhood. From that moment I knew that this was something I was interested in. I am also a big history buff so I started doing research and reading books and I was more so impress with the rich history of Delta. Anyway there are many reasons why I chose Delta.
I posted on here for a couple of reason I was looking for support, advice and to vent and all three were accomplished. In a situation like this I have tunnel vision, because I truly feel helpless so to hear opinions, encouragement and suggestions from other Sorors and Sistergreeks was truly appreciated.
Reds6- I am not sure I understand what you are saying. If you see a discrepancy with anything I said then please PM, thank you!
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Ok, so I'm confused. If you weren't expecting the best why are you now so distraught about their reaction? Do you think they are pissed because they may feel you weren't totally open with them or that you are gay? I would not have not voted for you if you were gay (white no), but I would would wonder if I really knew you, justified or not. Also everyone's comfort levels aren't the same. I guess I'm also confused about what role Nationals would play. Are they supposed to conduct sensitivity training or suspend the members that didn't respond favorably? I do however think Delta business should be in house, and I don't condone the behavior of the chapter just as I don't condone this issue being posted here.