Any other time this would be spam or shameless self-promotion.....
Okay, so it is.
www.oldgoldsoul.com, go there, buy a book called LAZARUS about a gay dude who pledges a fraternity.
Yeah, I wrote it, so what? LOL
But on the real, that's a tough situation and I really don't have any advice other than to continue being yourself and continue striving toward a sisterly resolution.
OH YEAH, and I am going to PM you the address of an LGBT NPHC yahoo group that may be able to provide some support.