Kamryn,
My Mother *encouraged* me to go to college out of state because she said that she wanted me to use the opportunity to go out and see something new in the world. My Dad was ok with it also so I don't think that they experienced any real sadness about me leaving.
Now, that was 92 so some 15 years later I still have not moved back to state in which they live and my Dad is trying to get me to move back to the state that they live in every chance that he gets. My Mother is *still* ok with me being gone. LOL.
Going to college was hard on me when I first left - as in the first 30 minutes after they dropped me off and drove away. After that, I found some friends and started enjoying being able to do whatever I wanted to do, go grocery shopping for myself, etc. I am the oldest child so I was always pretty self-sufficient so this may have a bearing on how each person experiences being away from home.
I would say to just make the best decision for *yourself* and *your life*. That may be to be near your family, that may be to be further from your family. I often think that if I lived nearer my family, I would be more caught up in alot of the family drama (esp. now that extended family lives nearby). The only reason that I am even now considering moving back is to share more closely in the life of my 6 year old niece. I go back every couple of months but I long to be a greater part of her life. But again, you must ask yourself, what do *you* want to do with *your* life. At some point, we all must start living for ourselves and not everyone else. Not to say neglect your family but to consider yourself in the equation at a level that is equal to or greater than the weight that you give to what *everyone else* wants you to do. At the end of the day *you* are the person that has to be able to sleep with your decision. So good luck!
SC
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Originally Posted by Kamryn
Greetings!
For those who are leaving/left the nest what was your experience like?
For the parents, did you experience the “empty nest syndrome?”
When I went to college it was hard on a lot of people because I chose to go out of the state. Now that I’m done with undergrad, I’ve decided to go to grad school out of state again, and perhaps move out of state for good. Although I have a younger sister, my parents are still having a severe case of empty nest syndrome. It won’t change my decision, because I know if they love me, they’ll let me go and be me. Eventually they’ll get over it. But I wanted to get an idea of your experiences; perhaps, to cope better with mine. Thank you in advance.
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