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Originally Posted by sexybrownmocha
I recently turned 26 my daughter is now five, I am STILL in school in Texas and I just figured out my dating pattern. I tend to date men that make ME feel like they NEED me. I constantly help them sometimes to the detriment of myself. I was wondering if anyone else has struggled with this somewhat in dating... I feel so bad I have a huge heart and LOVE to help everyone but it's like I go overboard with the man I am interested/involved with. How do you ladies view "helping" a man by giving him money and helping with his responsibilities? I don't have low self esteem or anything , I am somewhat shy.
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Run!!
No but for real, I slightly differ from some of the previous posts. I think it is okay to help a man when you have been in a serious committed relationship and there is a bigger goal ahead. I would never give a man money I was "dating" unless it had been for a looooooooooong time and we had a commitment. Now I am married and have been with my husband for 12 years and I am only 29, so there were times when we were in school that I had money and he didn't. So sometimes (he would say very rarely) I would give him money. We realized the bigger picture was that we would be out of school one day. Yes we also had the responsibility of a small child (something my husband and I produced our sophmore year in school) so being that I am always the organized one, more times than not I was the one with "extra" income, so yes I helped him out many times.