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Originally Posted by adpiucf
I can't wait to take you up on that idea, valkyrie. The workday is long.... You're right. If I don't hear back from her soon, then it is a moot point and I've done all I can over the last several months to be supportive, express my concerns regarding timely information so I can book my travel, etc. If I get the info so late that I can no longer afford to stand up beside her, it shouldn't reflect upon a lack of motivation or effort on my part.
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Valkyrie is absolutely right, and the bride is being terribly inconsiderate.
However, in your interest, just keep in mind that bowing out of the wedding could very well result in the end of the friendship between you and the bride. I know that she hasn't been a very good friend to you recently and it would be totally unfair for her to get mad at you/break up your friendship based on her lack of conscientiousness, but it's the truth. Human relationships can be notoriously irrational.
If she's been a good friend to you before the wedding dramarama and this wedding bs is a relatively isolated incident of her being a bad friend, you might decide that paying the extra cost for an airline ticket is worth it to avoid hurting your relationship with the bride. If she's been a so-so friend all along, or she has a history of being flakey, or whatever, you might decide that you're just better off without the hassle of her being in your life.
No matter what you decide, I don't think anyone would blame you for saying "screw it" and bowing out of the wedding, even if Bride had been a good friend before. I'd say a pretty strong argument could be made that a true friend would never put you through this kind of hassle, or at the very least wouldn't ignore your concerns.