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The other bridesmaids are in the dark, as well, and the MOH has tentative dates for the shower... I'm the only one from out of state. It is an inconvenience for everyone b/c they'll miss 1-2 days of work, too, but it's a 2-3 hour drive for everyone else so they're frustrated, too, but able to be a bit more flexible. Except for the sister, none of us has ordered a dress yet. The MOH may have; I am not sure.

I have her fiance's phone number, and if I can't get a hold of her, I may try calling him and using the, "I know dear bride is so very busy and I have just a couple quick questions that I was hoping you can help me with!"

I just want to know approx. start/end times so I can plan my flight and not have to spend the extra money (that I can't afford) on another evening in a hotel and missing more work!

At what point do I bow out? Flights are at around $300 right now... already more than I wanted to spend... when it gets to $400? At what point do I throw in the towel and give up? This is so silly; I agree-- every other wedding I have been a guest of/honor attendant to, there have updates upon updates until I'm sick of hearing about everything! I love my friend and I want only the best for her and to share in her happiness, but I'd love to know even more when I'm supposed to be there... and where the heck/if/when they have registered for gifts!