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Originally Posted by OOhsoflyDELTA#9
I did a search and couldn't find this topic....say you meet someone and you're clicking on all cylinders...everything is working out perfectly...but its only been say 1 or 2 months into the new relationship....do you worry about societal standards for how long you should date...or what your friends/family think or may say about it...or do you follow your heart.....my friend is about to marry someone who she has known for 3 months....whats your take???
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I don't go based on societal standards or what my family would think.
I go based on my common sense and intellect. I know that 3 months isn't enough time for ME to get to know someone for a lifetime commitment. In 3 months, even if relationships move fast and go QUICKLY beyond the honeymoon stage of perfection, you haven't seen that person in all seasons. You haven't seen the full impact that things like money issues, family issues, and insecurities can have on a relationship.
I have a friend who married after 3 months. They had a lot of issues but have sworn to work it out--only because some people think the Bible says divorce is a sin. Which I think is a crock but oh well. They are doing fine right now. Or their version of "fine."
So anything can hypothetically be worked out if people struggle enough to work it out. That doesn't mean it SHOULD work out. Love does NOT concur all because lifetime commitments are about so much more than love (and convenience). You have to be compatible on so many levels beyond just being a lovebug. I know that 3 months isn't enough time for ME to find that compatibility.