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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet
Other than AGDee, who else is married here? Kevin, did you just get married?
I ask because I think you can have all these beliefs and thoughts about marriage until you actually are... And even after you have lived with dude or chick for a significant number of years, the ballgame changes once you all acquire the license after solemnization...
I guess, for me, I am getting closer to my husband that I have EVER been in a short amount of time. We were planning to live together because dayum we were old enuf, but decided against it and got married because we were not reared that way...
Some folks can handle living together. We required a legalized document to call the po-po if either of us failed to come home after a preset time...  But, I don't care how it works for some folks and +/-marriage...
I think if you sign up and solemnize this license, it is a privelege to be in each others company. Then at least do it wisely. I would do everything short of a colonoscopy to determine what I want to "tolerate"... Sometimes there are just "deal breakers", like being too hairy in strange places... Or male sitting on toilets to urinate...
And what's good for the goose is good for the gander... |
I've been married for about a year and a half - and while my wife and I discussed a bunch of things before we were married, I don't think we went down any list of "Must ask questions."
Of course, we also lived with each other for two years prior to getting married, so we knew what we were getting into prior to marriage.
I agree though that marital advice is one of those things where every person thinks they're an expert, right up there with politics and children.