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Originally Posted by 33girl
Sorry if you thought I was curt, but I'm a little frustrated. The OP was advised that regardless of what the GL office says, it would be to her benefit to obtain recs on her own, and it just seems like she's coming up with excuse after excuse to blow it off.
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I didn't think your post was curt, but I would like to point out that I'm not blowing the recs thing off. Considering I haven't been very happy with my social life during the first semester (haven't been able to make very many friends or acquaintances), I'm not taking the rush process lightly because I know that it's important. In addition, this is the only time I want to go through with it. I'm not going to rush and then just....not sign a bid card or something, and try it again another semester. I just want to try it once and for all. So, I'm not blowing it off, but I DO have other priorities in my life that I need to deal with when I have time off from school that do not include rush. I have family stuff that needs to be taken care of, and frankly, it needs to be done now rather than when I'm back at school and have a full class schedule to deal with.
I mean honestly, I've had enough of this whole rec crap. If a sorority is gonna be that high maintenance and finicky to where they absolutely must have a rec and personal letters and such in advance in order to extend me a bid(and based on what I saw at fall rounds, it only seems like a few are THAT competitive), then it's probably not the house for me. I mean, during rush, I'll be standing RIGHT THERE. What could a house possibly learn about me from reading a rec written by some random alum that I met with for 30 minutes in a Starbucks that they can't learn just by talking and getting to know me? Ugh, it's extremely frustrating.
If I had known sooner that really, it IS a good thing to have recs, I would have gotten them. Frankly, I just don't have the time between now and rush (nor can I really prioritize it over other issues I have to deal with) to attempt to get them. So I'll go in with no recs, and that's fine with me now. If I get cut from all the houses, that's fine and that'll be my fault.
Anyway, I'm sorry that you're getting frustrated. Just remember that aside from the ones on campus (who, because of dirty rushing allegations, can't even TALK to me), I don't know a single person in a sorority. I don't come from a long line of women in XYZ. I don't know how the process works. I don't know what goes on. I didn't even know that alumni were at the houses at all during rush. This whole thing is new for me, and the Rho Chis that are assigned to try to tell you what exactly goes on really don't do anything more than repeat what's said in the 3 page rush booklet. So please try to be patient with me. It's frustrating for me, too.