Scandia,
You need to know how to be married if you want to get
married.
"I kissed dating goodbye" is okay, but not as helpful to getting married. It is pretty much you ought not have a list and accept the "one" God lead's you to...
Now, if you get an a$$hole, then you probably pushed it and ran up under a guy who does not LOVE you.
A man who loves you will do unbelievable things. I am not talking about psychopathic stalking domestic violence abusers. I am talking about when a man loves a woman or whatever your persuasion... When he does and marriage is what you want, then those are things you don't have to ask for, it will just happen... Almost like magic...
The best you can do is to be in spiritual sync and breathe... Prepare for your mate...
And it is more about collaboration than compromise. You make it all compromise--give & take, the seeds of resentment set in... Make it a collaborative effort, and see how far you both go...
And as for settling... I settled down. I used to partay like a freak, 8 days a week, 25 hours a day... But being with my husband, has calmed my Sith Lord capabilities...
And I can become the Jedi I always wanted to be...
Whatever you do, know and do you...