[laylo]

I would caution readers about the fact that he was only 21 when he wrote the book. But in defense of Mr. Harris, I really don't think his point was "Read to orphans as a substitute for a relationship". He was saying that too many Christians are so marriage-hungry that they lose focus on their own spiritual lives which, like it or not, are supposed to heavily involve serving others (and service does NOT just mean volunteering). If you aren't in the right place spiritually, you shouldn't be making the most important, intimate, and permanent spiritual union of your life. I check for that.