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Hi Sarah,
I just wanted to let you know -I know what you are going through. I had the same problem except the other woman was drugs and alcohol. He was my first love and we were together almost my entire freshman year of college-he failed out and we tried to keep it going but he started hanging out with the wrong people. I have to say that I WASTED 6 F**king years feeling worthless, like it was my fault, what could I have done differently, etc.... Don't do this, please don't do this. I did get closure from him. It had been 6 years and I did call him up and I went to see him-he had changed so much. He had gone to prison for DWI and that helped him change his life around. I can still remember the exact moment when he looked at me and said "Karen I am sorry, I am sorry for all the things that happened and all the pain I caused you"-at that moment I never looked back.
I agree though with all the statement s above that closure comes within yourself, I think at that moment I realized that though it was nice to hear him say I am sorry, I had already had closure for many years and did not realize this. I regret passing by all the good guys b/c all I could think about was him. I will never let a man have that power over me again. It has been a year for you, don't let it grow iinto 6 years-he is not worth it.
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