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Originally Posted by almost64
I thought about trying to get some earlier in the year, but my Greek Ambassador (other schools' equivalents of Rho Chi, I think?), said that they really aren't necessary and it really doesn't hurt you if you don't have them, blah blah. Ah, the process was soooo confusing. Then she said that if a chapter wants a rec for you, they'll get one and that it's not your responsibility, which I didn't really understand but was too much of a shy freshman to ask about. So I was like "ok dont have to do anything," and then later found out that EVERYONE seems to have a whole portfolio organized.
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I really, really hate it that many PNMs get told this! They said the same thing when I registered for rush, and dummy me turned down several recs because I assumed that they weren't necessary. After all, the brochure Panhellenic sent out said it was so! Not everyone is coached practically from birth on how to have a successful rush and it's not fair to assume that PNMs will just automatically know what a rec is or how to get one. At some schools it doesn't make too big a difference--everything ended up OK for me--but on other campuses it's a completely different story. Please don't feel bad that you didn't secure recs earlier...how were you supposed to know?
I wish Panhellenics would be a little more forthcoming about this kind of thing instead of just saying, "Oh, don't worry! If they like you enough, they'll get a rec for you!"