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Well...
From my own experience--closure can only come from YOU.
I was involved with someone for 4 1/2 years, then on and off for another 6. I always said I needed closure from HIM, but the truth is, I was the only one who could provide myself with closure. I had to come to grips with the decisions I made, with the events that happened, I had to learn to accept and forgive and move on. I no way could he have helped with that, in fact each and every time I got in touch with him with the guise of looking for 'closure' -- it only made it worse, made it feel like closure was farther away.
This guy played you and to call and confess how hard a time you've been having would give him a power over you that you don't need him to have, and my guess is, after the disrespectful way he treated you, he wouldn't care.
Good luck, be strong. Heartache SUCKS, but you will move on. He was a jerk, don't give him anymore power over you than he already has. Moving on and being strong is the best closure you could have, IMO.
Amy
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