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Originally Posted by Scandia
Negotiating- things that you would prefer to have in a partner but are not absolute musts.
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When it comes to a partner, I would just use the word compromise. Negotiating is something done between two people who cannot reach an agreement. Compromising is something you can do with yourself. What's steadfast and what are you willing to compromise?
For instance, you must have a guy who believes in god. You'll compromise over his religion though.
This will sound a bit silly to someone who's not a sports fan, but I'm a diehard red sox fan (I'm sitting here in red sox pj pants!) and I dated a yankees fan. After we broke up, I swore never to date another yankees fan. I'm a very passionate, competitive person so it wouldn't work. Now I'm with a diehard sox fan like myself. I went to Fenway and saw the sox play live for the first time with him and I wouldn't have traded it for the world.
So it comes down to this:
looks-worth a compromise.
politics-possible compromise.
religion-compromise.
etc. etc. It depends what you hold near and dear. My SO may be the physical opposite of what I always imagined my type to be but he's also perfect (in my eyes) in every other way and we fit. I will marry him.
Scandia, I know you're older, but I would really check out a certain book. It's called 'I Gave Dating a Chance' by Jeramy Clark. It's aimed at teenagers but it's a good grounding for christian dating etc. Stay away from Joshua Harris, whatever you do.