[Scandia]

OK, exactly what did these lists entail?

Because there is a big difference between

"my ideal mate will enjoy classical music as much as I do"

and

"my ideal mate will not have a felony criminal record"

Hey, I don't even have any favorite sports teams. I don't care if he's into sports or not- as long as we do have interests in common AND he respects me and my viewpoints and preferences.

What I mean is things like "he has to be a practicing Catholic" vs. "he has to believe in the Judeo-Christian deity". While the first one may not be an absolute requirement (although it would simplify things a lot), the second one is an absolute must that I cannot and will not negotiate/compromise/settle about (don't know which one of the three terms would apply best).