Originally Posted by FSUZeta
i admire your convictions.
that being said, i got the feeling from reading your posts that you might be hoping for a " virginal knight in shining armor, to ride up on his charger, sweep you off your feet, and you live happily ever after." if what i picked up is correct, i am afraid that if will be difficult for you to meet the "man of your dreams." romantic notions rarely materialize in real life. that is a romance novel.
i do think that you can find a man who is a good,responsible person, who will love you and support(be in your corner) you, whom you will love and enjoy being with. with the criteria you listed, it will take time. you may find that you have to compromise-not "settle"-but perhaps relax some of your requirements.
you should feel a spark-you should want the minutes to fly by until the next time you can see him. you want to feel butterflies in your stomach when you speak to him on the phone. you want to daydream about him.
don't put a time/age limit on yourself(i want to be married by the time i am xx). there are too many extenuating circumstances that you cannot control.
i don't know if anyone else experienced this, but in my dating life, when i was looking for a "boyfriend", it never seemed to work out. however, when i became content to be by myself and enjoyed having a quiet evening at home with a "girly" movie or a good book, or going out with girlfriends, guys were falling all over themselves to gain my attention. maybe it was a vibe i unknowingly gave off-whatever, it was strange.
if you don't feel a spark for you friend, don't keep going out with him on dates. i have heard of relationships where the guy and girl were friends, hung out and then over time discovered their feelings had become romantic towards each other. i do not know anyone where this happened.
i really think that once you feel the spark, all the other things will fall into place. just relax, take your time, and if it is meant to be, it will be. go with your feelings-seek the spark.
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