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Originally Posted by Scandia
KLPDaisy- I find fumbling on your wedding night to be very romantic. I'm strange like that. I am a fence sitting moderate. I cannot be the lone fluke that God did not put in a mold like every other human being that has existed.
I had never thought of the angle you presented- but then, I am not extremely conservative.
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But Scandia, being a virgin in your late twenties IS an extremely conservative choice in our society. I'm not passing judgment, believe me, but when like 90% of Americans engage in premarital sex you are most likely going to attract very religious, very conservative men -- which is okay if that's what you want! However, if that's not the type of man you're hoping to attract, your experience parameters are going to make your search incredibly difficult.
I don't know how many partners is too many, but even my most conservative and/or religious guy friends have had at least a few partners by the age of 27 or so (mostly in the context of long-term dating or engagement). If they were virgins until they married, they married YOUNG -- 19-21. Those men may share your values, but if they're on the market they're probably divorced. It's not that there are few good men left, as you put it in an earlier post, they just have a different value system from you. I'm not passing judgment on your values system at all, I think you should stick to your guns about the experience thing but just know that your parameters are sort of difficult for men in their mid-late 20s to fulfill.