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Many people have made that point that sparks are highest at the beginning or when both realize they are in love with each other.

Sadly, I am not feeling any physical chemistry towards him.

Not only that, but another friend noticed lack of mental chemistry from what I wrote. She noticed that I did not pinpoint any specific things we discussed or he said or did. That I sounded like I was describing a perfectly pleasant man who did not make me laugh, think, or wonder. That I showed no more enthusiasm towards him than towards somebody I was writing a business reference for.

And of course, I am not feeling anything special emotionally.

Another dead end. But I did learn something- that I DO need the chemistry and sparks, that it is NOT a good thing that they were so low, that they ARE what distinguish a relationship from the rest of the friendships, that no matter if he meets the requirements and falls within my preferences (not that he met all or was the prototype of what I would want), if that spark is missing, it IS settling.