Quote:
Originally posted by Ideal08
Ok, I have serious issues with this. Blacks need one big lesson on basic social graces as determined by WHOM? I have no desire to learn how to act, shuck, or jive for my White counterparts. Nor do I have the desire to carry checks or credit cards based on their PERCEPTIONS (based in racism) of Blacks carrying cash. THAT IS THEIR PROBLEM. So because white people will think that a Black man carrying cash is a drug dealer, he shouldn't carry cash? Gimme a break. Money is green, and it all spends. While I realize that this is a White man's world, I still have no desire to conform to how they THINK I should act at the dinner table and in the store. If I go into a store and get turned away based on the actions of the Black woman who went before me, that is not a store I want to spend my money in anyway. Who deems what is appropriate and what is not?
Threatened with expulsion from her SOCIAL CLUB???? Oh my goodness, keep your shirts on, Hilary might not be able to socialize anymore!!! Oh no, the TRAGEDY!!! Why would you want to hang around with people who will expel you from an organization because you laughed too loud in the dining area?? Yeah, those are exactly the people that I wish to rub elbows with. 
When are we going to stop trying to conform and fit into their world. IT WASN'T MEANT FOR US! PERIOD! So why take a CLASS on social graces to fit into a world that wasn't meant for you? NEWSFLASH: It doesn't make a difference how poised you are, how classy you are, how articulate you are, how intelligent you are, you will STILL be judged by the color of your skin. So have fun in your social graces classes, I, for one, would not be in attendance.
All this because a man paid for his purchase in cash? You say tomato, I say tomato. You don't like it, you don't have to do it. However, don't press your issues of how we are perceived by society on everyone and say that we all need to take classes in social graces. Gimme a break.
|
Couldn't have said it better myself! My thoughts exactly!
Yes, my mother taught me 'the rules of the game'. She worked in corporate America for 25 years before changing into the field of education. I can go into an upscale restaurant and dine with the best of them. Hell, I even know how to purchase a bottle of wine, and which flavors complement what foods. I learned these things because I WANTED to.
But, as I said before, I will be damned if I will worry about what 'White America' thinks about me. I care about my people too, but I am not one to go and tell them that they need to this or that in order to be pleasing to white society.
I think that our people have greater issues to deal with, rather than worrying about what White America, or so-called socially adept Black Americans feel we need to do in order to make ourselves more socially pleasing to THEM.
Everyone, have a blessed holiday season.
PrettyPetite