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Originally posted by Poplife
As bad as this sounds, I think blacks just need one big lesson on basic social graces. We are so quick to get mad when someone says something like I did. Did you know that one of the biggest problem with inexperienced black business people is their social skills? They are smart, well-educated, and even well worded, but many of them don't know how to eat at a business luncheon, use polite humor to relax their potential benefactors, or PAY FOR THE MEAL. Did you know that some business men have been denied deals because the other men didn't like the way his WIFE acted (true story). Hilary Clinton was threatened with expulsion by her social club because she was loudly laughing and talking in a room designated for quite dining. And what's worse, she didn't see a reason to be quiet and didn't understand why she was being told to shut-up.
We get treated by the way we present ourselves. The issue is, many of us don't see anything wrong with doing things a certain way even if it's highly inappropriate.
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Ok, I have serious issues with this. Blacks need one big lesson on basic social graces as determined by WHOM? I have no desire to learn how to act, shuck, or jive for my White counterparts. Nor do I have the desire to carry checks or credit cards based on their PERCEPTIONS (based in racism) of Blacks carrying cash. THAT IS THEIR PROBLEM. So because white people will think that a Black man carrying cash is a drug dealer, he shouldn't carry cash? Gimme a break. Money is green, and it all spends. While I realize that this is a White man's world, I still have no desire to conform to how they THINK I should act at the dinner table and in the store. If I go into a store and get turned away based on the actions of the Black woman who went before me, that is not a store I want to spend my money in anyway. Who deems what is appropriate and what is not?
Threatened with expulsion from her SOCIAL CLUB???? Oh my goodness, keep your shirts on, Hilary might not be able to socialize anymore!!! Oh no, the TRAGEDY!!! Why would you want to hang around with people who will expel you from an organization because you laughed too loud in the dining area?? Yeah, those are exactly the people that I wish to rub elbows with.
When are we going to stop trying to conform and fit into their world. IT WASN'T MEANT FOR US! PERIOD! So why take a CLASS on social graces to fit into a world that wasn't meant for you? NEWSFLASH: It doesn't make a difference how poised you are, how classy you are, how articulate you are, how intelligent you are, you will STILL be judged by the color of your skin. So have fun in your social graces classes, I, for one, would not be in attendance.
All this because a man paid for his purchase in cash? You say tomato, I say tomato. You don't like it, you don't have to do it. However, don't press your issues of how we are perceived by society on everyone and say that we all need to take classes in social graces. Gimme a break.