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Originally posted by exquizit
But should we or YOU really care about how the man was paying for his purchase? At first the whole thing came off kinda snobbish but then I said "no, Pop can't be like that" but if this man special ordered something and paid for it in cash , more power to him. IF I had that type of cash, no, I wouldn't walk around with it in my pocket, but that's me. If he chose to do it then he must have felt comfortable.
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I care because whether you want to admit it or not, when one black person does something the rest following have to suffer. A black man in raggedy clothes pays $2,000 with rumpled bills which he pulled out of his coat pockets, pants pockets, and wallet. He looked like a damn drug dealer and I feel sorry for the black man who comes in after him.
I worked retail for a long time. I know how they operate. They probably called all the boutiques within a 50 mile radius warning them of a 'suspicious black male' who pays in cash. And believe me, even a classy place like Louis will do that. As nice as a sales person might be, they do NOT want us shopping in their stores. A friend of mine works security for Lord and Taylor and told me she has actually been instructed to watch all minorities, especially blacks. A Nordstrom in Virginia considered removing the entire Ralph Lauren collection because it 'attracted unsavory people' aka BLACKS! And the reason for all this BS is the few blacks who don't understand how tacky and ghetto some of their habits are.
Snobbish is really in the eye of the beholder. Some people would call me "polished and refined". Shoot, the AKA's and Delta's at my school are called snobby all the time. But others say that they have grace and dignity. It's the same with Jack and Jill, the Links, and the Boule.
As bad as this sounds, I think blacks just need one big lesson on basic social graces. We are so quick to get mad when someone says something like I did. Did you know that one of the biggest problem with inexperienced black business people is their social skills? They are smart, well-educated, and even well worded, but many of them don't know how to eat at a business luncheon, use polite humor to relax their potential benefactors, or PAY FOR THE MEAL. Did you know that some business men have been denied deals because the other men didn't like the way his WIFE acted (true story). Hilary Clinton was threatened with expulsion by her social club because she was loudly laughing and talking in a room designated for quite dining. And what's worse, she didn't see a reason to be quiet and didn't understand why she was being told to shut-up.
We get treated by the way we present ourselves. The issue is, many of us don't see anything wrong with doing things a certain way even if it's highly inappropriate.
Proverb from my mother: "If you're walking in the woods and see a baby bear don't laugh at its size, because where a there is a baby there is always a mother." In layman's term, do not dismiss small things because they seem harmless or meaningless. It might be a warning of a much bigger problem that can easily destroy you.