Ill admitt I had (even though a comdom was used but I missed my period for 2 months...turns out just stressed) a scare and until out it was neg., the only thing I thought about was figuring out a way to say school while having a child if it was pos. I completely see and understand your point DZ but if we werent allowed to speak or view our opinion until we an experience with that something, then I believe we'd live in silence, not really knowing anything. I think everyone has a right to have their voice heard, but do it without extremes.