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I think it's admirable that people have such liberal views regarding weight here, but in real life I don't think it plays out quite like that. I would consider myself overweight- not horribly so, but I definitely need to trim down. And even though I can look in the mirror and know that I have a gorgeous face, and the hourglass, t & a figure that some people actually want, when I go out it's different. I have gone to frat parties, and hung out with the sweetest, nicest guys, but when the evening comes to a close, I'm not the one that they want to be with. It's even more irritating when I go out with my roomate, who is (and I'm being honest here, I love her to death but this is the truth) not nearly as kind, sweet, funny, smart, or attractive as me, but she has a better body, and guys go for her. When it comes down to basic, primal attraction, I haven't met very many guys who would pick a great sense of humor over a flat stomach. And girls aren't always that much better. It's wierd to go out and get recieved either as a non-threat, or else as someone not worth talking to just because you don't fit into a size six. I know this sounds really bitter but I've spent alot of time thinking about this and trying to figure out what is really going on- and please don't say it's only about confidence or how you carry yourself because we all know that it's more than that. Or maybe less, depending on how you look at it.
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