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Originally Posted by texas*princess
I know this should go in the career forum, but this one gets more traffic...
Please help me tell my boss I'm unhappy 
Here's the deal:
I've been working for ABC since February. I got a promotion after being with the company for about 5 months which was awesome. The problem, however, is that at the beginning I was hesitant to take it because I wasn't sure the position was for me.
After a ton of reassurance from everyone, I went for it.
Two months later, I am just so frazzled. This position should have been somewhat similar to my old one, but it just isn't and I'm not finding myself happy.
I don't know how to articulate this ... I know I need to find a purpose for the whole talk... (like what kind of resolution I want out of it) but I'm really not sure.
There is a position open in the same company that I think I would really like... it's more of what I want to do long term and even though I know it will be crazy, I think I may be happier.
Before I even think about pursuing that, however, I want to talk to my current boss.
Help?
Should I lean towards the other position? Should I stick it out?
I don't know how to have this sort of talk and it's something that needs to get out there because I've been miserable. |
There are two very important (and related) rules for you to remember here:
1 - You will never get what you want from your boss unless you ask for it
-This means ask directly, and do not beat around the bush or 'hedge' . . . make your desires clear, have support for your points, and have an idea of what you're looking from the situation before you walk into the boss's office
2 - Most people are not good at 'reading' the situations of their subordinates
-Your boss will most likely be 'blindsided' by your situation . . . unless you've been overly clear about the troubles you've been having and your desire for change, your boss is not looking for those signals. Because of this, your boss will have very little in the way of 'help' for you, at least at first - simply put, your boss will most likely be moderately to completely unprepared to ameliorate your situation, and thus any input you can give at the time will be vital to making good things happen.
This means that, if you want the other position, you'll be able to walk in, give your reasons, explain why this is a good move,
thank your boss and probably not burn too many bridges. On the other hand, you cannot at all expect your boss to provide you 'help' - he or she probably won't know what to say, so you need to say it for yourself.