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During recruitment one of my sisters recognized a PNM from her dorm the year before. They had had a couple of run-ins and really didn't get along. However the PNM developed a "rush crush" with one of the senior officers who was really pressing for her to get a bid. Anyway, my sister bit her tongue and just tried to wait and see. Anyway the PNM DID get a bid and ended up being an AWESOME addition. The PNM/new sister ended up seeking out my sister and apologized for her past behavior.
However since this involves an ex, if the new gf does go through recruitment, couldn't you just fill out a recomendation form and from what I have seen, most have a space for "would you recommend this person for membership"- you could say "No". Simply state the facts, try and keep emotions out of it. Since she is at a different school, you have to trust that you sisters at that school will do what is best for the sisterhood.
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